4
things I’ve learned about spiritual survival in the last 4 months
If you’re like me, you have probably had
someone tell you recently—or perhaps you have said it yourself—that 2020 has
been a total wash. Just look at some of the major events of this year: devastating wildfires in Australia, the eruption of the Taal Volcano in the Philippines, the third impeachment trial in US history, the killing of George Floyd, a 7.5-magnitude earthquake in Oaxaca, Mexico, and of course, the COVID-19 pandemic.
As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland said in April 2020 conference,
COVID-19 is “a solemn reminder that a virus 1,000 times smaller than a grain of
sand can bring entire populations and global economies to their knees.”
But the
effects of the pandemic are not only seen in the number of cases or the tragic
loss of lives. The mental, social, and spiritual effects cannot be
underestimated.
• Talkspace, an online
therapy company, reported a 65 percent increase in client usage since February,
with coronavirus-related anxiety being a top patient concern.
Personally, I also feel the
pandemic has caused a surge of social opinions, and as technology has become
the default method of communication, my social media feeds have been inundated
with more polarizing posts than I know how to handle.
This “war of words” is
something the Prophet Joseph Smith also knew well, as evidenced by what he
wrote in his personal history, “Great multitudes united themselves to different
. . . parties, which created no small stir and division amongst the people,
some crying, ‘Lo here!’ and others, ‘Lo there!’ . . . A scene of great
confusion and bad feeling ensued . . . so that all their good feelings one for
another, if they ever had any, were entirely lost in a strife of words and a
contest about opinions” (Joseph Smith—History 1:5-6).
Despite all of the voices
and through all the noise, there was one voice that mattered most to Joseph,
and it’s that voice that should matter the most to us in our time of strife—the
voice of the Lord.
The year 2020 likely won’t be one that pops
up in my Facebook memories with glorious travel pictures or awesome hangouts,
but I think 2020 will be memorable for a different reason—how I’ve focused more
on hearing the voice of the Savior during “a scene of great confusion and bad
feeling.”
Here are
four lessons I’ve learned in the last few months about spiritual survival in
tumultuous 2020.
1. Nothing is more important than love.
I sometimes
think about the people who heard the Savior’s voice firsthand. In 3 Nephi 11:29–30, the Savior instructs the people in America
and says:
“For verily,
verily I say unto you, he that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but
is of the devil, who is the father of contention, and he stirreth up the hearts
of men to contend with anger, one with another.
“Behold,
this is not my doctrine, to stir up the hearts of men with anger, one against
another; but this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away.”
In a joint statement with the NAACP, President Nelson wrote, “Jesus
Christ taught an inspired model that leads to peace and harmony—to love God
first, and then to love our neighbor as ourselves. We don’t pretend that either
of these pursuits is easy, but we do declare that they yield the fruits the
Lord promised.”
Perhaps when Christ called
these the two great commandments, they were great not only because of their
importance but because of the effort required to achieve them. In this time of
division, perhaps we can all find ways to show greater love, both love of God
and love of our neighbor.
As Elder Holland said in general conference, “These
two divine directives are still—and
forever will be—the only real hope we have
for giving our children a better world than the one they now know.”
So how do we show love?
Through our actions. To combat the evil of racism, President Nelson said, “We need to foster a fundamental respect
for the human dignity of every human soul, regardless of their color, creed, or
cause. And we need to work tirelessly to build bridges of understanding rather
than creating walls of segregation.”
To show love during a
pandemic, Utah faith leaders recently encouraged people to wear
masks. Perhaps love can be shown in the simple way of wearing a mask in public,
and perhaps service can happen in those simple ways too, which brings me to my
next lesson.
2. Ministering can happen in really simple ways.
I love to
travel, especially around my birthday in May. This year I had a wonderful trip
planned. My birthday was going to be spent in Nauvoo, exploring Church history
sites and attending the Nauvoo Illinois Temple (one of the ones on my bucket
list). The week was to conclude with my brother’s wedding in Iowa.
Of course,
those plans were canceled, and I ended up watching my brother get married
through a Zoom call. I started to think of backup birthday plans and ended up
crafting a “treat yourself” birthday, which was going to include a stop at my
favorite spa. But of course, it’s 2020 and the spa wasn’t going to open in time
for my birthday. One day I was bemoaning this situation to my ministering
sister. A few days later I got a text from her. She had just gotten an email
about a spa that had opened and wanted to forward it to me so I could fulfill
my backup birthday plans. It was such a simple thing, but it meant the world to
me.
Her simple
act of service reminded me of a teaching from President Jean B. Bingham:
“Sometimes we think we have to do something grand and
heroic to ‘count’ as serving our neighbors. Yet simple acts of service can have
profound effects on others—as well as on ourselves. What did the Savior do? Through
His supernal gifts of the Atonement and Resurrection—which we celebrate on this beautiful Easter
Sunday—'none other
has had so profound an influence [on] all who have lived and who will yet live
upon the earth’ (The Living Christ: The Testimony of the Apostles). But He also
smiled at, talked with, walked with, listened to, made time for, encouraged,
taught, fed, and forgave. He served family and friends, neighbors and strangers
alike, and He invited acquaintances and loved ones to enjoy the rich blessings
of His gospel. Those ‘simple’ acts of service and love provide a template for
our ministering today.”
Service definitely looks different
during coronavirus. There is always great power in face-to-face interactions.
As Elder David A. Bednar recently said during a landmark address on religious
freedom, “Gathering for worship, ritual, and fellowship is
essential; it is not merely an enjoyable social activity.”
Truly, we need each other. And now as
pandemic restrictions ease, perhaps we can look for more physically-distant
ways to serve each other. As congregations begin to return to worship services,
we can take note of people who aren’t attending, especially our ministering
brothers and sisters. I hope that we do our part to account for the Lord’s
sheep, because as Elder Bednar said, “Indeed, if the faithful are not
gathering, sooner or later they will begin to scatter.”
And if your
ministering brothers and sisters aren’t attending because of health concerns
for themselves or the high-risk individuals they live with, imagine the
isolation they must feel right now as they’ve been strict social distancers for
months. Perhaps now, more than ever, these people need to hear our voices.
My next
takeaway ties into this one.
3. Sometimes you have to be the one to reach out and ask
for help.
In the Book
of Mormon, we learn that “the church did meet together oft . . . to speak with
one another concerning the welfare of their souls” (Moroni 6:5).
As I
mentioned before, there are serious mental health concerns emerging due to
coronavirus. And if you are struggling with something, whether it’s
emotionally, mentally, or spiritually, sometimes you have to be the one to
speak up about it.
This is a lesson I feel
like I have to learn over and over again in life. I love my independence and
it’s really important to me, but I think part of “comforting those that stand
in need of comfort” is realizing sometimes it takes a bit of vulnerability to
say that you are the one that stands in need (Mosiah 18:9).
Most recently I learned
this lesson when my grandpa passed away a few weeks ago. Though he was 90 years
old, his death caught me off-guard. I had a physically-distant lunch with him
on the Saturday prior and we ate lunch together and joked about whether we’d
ever make it back to Disneyland, his favorite place. Just three days later, I
got the call saying that his health had taken a sudden turn for the worse.
After spending one last day with him, he passed away that night of natural
causes.
I spent almost every
Saturday of my adult life with my grandpa, and suddenly not having him around
has increased my own feelings of loneliness during a time of isolation.
But I have been really
blessed that when I’ve reached out to others in my moments of mourning, they
have been there to mourn with me. On a work call the day after my grandpa’s
passing, I was embarrassed when I choked up after someone asked me how I was
doing, but instantly I got so many messages of love and support. I asked some
friends if I could just sit with them for a while, and their company made a
world of difference. But in order to receive those blessings of comfort, I
first had to “speak with [them] concerning the welfare of [my] soul” (Moroni 6:5).
Elder Robert D. Hales has taught, “When you attempt to live
life’s experiences alone, you are not being true to yourself, nor to your basic
mission in life. Individuals in difficulty often say: ‘I’ll do it alone,’ ‘Leave
me alone,’ ‘I don’t need you,’ ‘I can take care of myself.’ It has been said
that no one is so rich that he does not need another’s help, no one so poor as
not to be useful in some way to his fellowman. The disposition to ask
assistance from others with confidence, and to grant it with kindness, should
be part of our very nature.”
Sometimes you have to be the one to reach out
and ask for help—and it’s terrifying. But there is a power in the covenant
community of Christ and inviting that community into your life.
4. We need the Spirit to survive.
We often
talk about our physical health. And thankfully, conversations of mental health
are beginning to happen more regularly. Yet we rarely talk about our spiritual
health—which might be one of the most important health aspects to talk about.
Two years
ago, President Nelson said, “In coming days, it will not be
possible to survive spiritually without the guiding, directing, comforting, and
constant influence of the Holy Ghost.”
Has your
spiritual health survived coronavirus? Or do you maybe feel that the constant
influence of the Holy Ghost has eluded you during this time? Perhaps without
the strengthening influence of temple worship, the weekly renewal of covenants
through the sacrament, or simply being able to gather together, you have taken
a detour off the strait and narrow path.
Gospel
translates to “good news,” and the good news we know as Latter-day Saints is
that a detour is just that—a detour. The Savior not only provides a way back to
the strait and narrow path, He is the
way. He will lift us and carry us back. He has walked that treacherous road so
He knows how to bring us safely home.
In a recent Church News video, President Nelson said, “The road ahead will always be
bumpy, but the destination will be serene and secure. So, fasten your seat
belt, hang on through the bumps, and do what’s right, and your rewards will be
eternal.”
The Savior
wants us to survive spiritually and will be with us on that bumpy road. He is
our Redeemer. As we hear Him and hearken to His counsel, we will be led to
eternal rewards.
Looking forward
In an
interview with Church News about COVID-19, Elder Quentin L.
Cook said, “We will look back on this as a foundational time of preparation and
not just something we had to endure.”
Our living
prophet has encouraged us to “hear Him”—our Savior. And just like Joseph Smith,
we might have to sift through “a contest about opinions” to find His voice.
Perhaps circumstances are allowing us to find our own Sacred Groves to commune
with Him, and a bedroom closet might be a substitution for a forested wood.
I believe
that as we consider how we “hear Him,” even amidst the turmoil of 2020, we
truly will find this to be “a foundational time of preparation.”
